I dont have a girl friend, so what?

I have pondered on this for so long and it still does not make any sense to me: why must I have a girlfriend before I’m seen as a big boy? Why should I pretend to be what am not just to get that beautiful damsel’s attention? Why should I spend my monthly allowance on call credit to call her and afterwards soak Garri (garri is one of my favourite snacks though). A guy was saying sometimes ago that has it dawned on him that he was in 300L without a girl he could call his girlfriend. He was really serious and was begging to be linked to any Law girl I know. Infact; he doesn’t mind how she looked or who she is. She should just agree to be his girlfriend and he will be good… We are so neck deep into this whole relationship thing that we just don’t realise how blind we are, what great mistake we are making. We walk straight into a ditch with our eyes wild open yet blind. We see good when evil is staring us right in the face just because we think we are in love. Love they say is blind. No wonder people who fall in love always end up in falling into ditches. Love can never ever be blind. Listen to this chorus from a Toni Braxton song ‘I hate goodbyes, I hate this tears in my eyes, I hate myself for the way I feel about you …………………. I hate love’ this singer fell in love and hated herself for it. Why? She could not control her emotions, she lost self control and in the process her self esteem. This is exactly what happens when you hear people say they have fallen in love. Does love make one stupid and foolish? Consider this female Law student who cooks in her room every day in Queen Idia Hall and then takes it to one guy in Bello Hall or this 100L girl who goes to Bodija on Fridays to get this young man’s food supply. Love or slavery?
This particular story made me laugh my ribs out: on February 14, she bought her boyfriend several gifts without receiving a ‘thank you’. She then went again to the market to buy some other gifts, neatly wrapped and addressed them to herself. When she got to her room, she told her room mates that it was her Val gift from the so called boyfriend. Can you imagine! Isn’t that just crazy and damn right stupid.
My point is, we don’t need to follow the crowd to do evil. Please don’t get me wrong, I am not saying it is wrong to ‘fall in love’ rather I am saying why don’t we fall in love with sense. Let love be accomplished by wisdom. Letting someone else control and dictate the pace of my life all in the name of love, there is no sense in it. Absolutely none. I discover that a lot of deception is displayed by this folks who holds hands in class, church and in the Hall or Residence. Many only want someone they can tag as their boyfriend or girlfriend so as to avoid being looked down upon by friends. Girls are more vulnerable to fall prey of this than guys, which is why many girls lose their head and go to any extent to please and satisfy girl. It’s been said that girls are like medicine, they come with expiry date and once expired, they are disposed. This is why it is so easy for a guy to dispose of any girl once he is tired of her.
This and many more I considered, and I told myself ‘it just aint worth it’. Any girl that won’t accept me for who I am is not worthy of me. If I have to pretend to please her, then she is not for me. If I have to spend every dime in my pocket to make her happy, I won’t mind but if only she is the right person. Sometimes we come across a lot of people and begin to cook up feelings which do not stand the test of time. We do miss interpret our friendship or closeness with these folks for an indication of their interest in a relationship. We therefore leave them confused at the end when we get disappointed that they never had any feelings for us. Hey young folks, wake up, stop day dreaming and be realistic. Be bold and confident. I don’t have a girlfriend. So what!

The Sins of our Fathers

The sins of our Fathers
I have taken time to examine their sins measure by measure and have come to the realization that the present national paralysis is due to their many blunders. They ate the green unripe mangos and we are left to bear the brunt of the stomach ache just like what Jeremiah meant when he wrote ‘the fathers have eaten a sour grape and the children’s teeth are set on edge’.
Rather than lay a solid foundation for the Nation at Independence, they were more concerned with boosting their political power and prowess. They with one voice fought the colonial power that be. Having battled colonial oppression with zeal, vigour and energy; they failed woefully to strengthen their united political Arsenal, instead they went their separate ways to form regional and ethnic political parties. The Northern People’s Congress (NPC), National Council of Nigeria and Cameroon (NCNC) and Action Group (AG) were formed along ethnic lines. No wonder today, we are still divided along those lines. The inability to settle their differences led to over 28 years of military usurpation. Yet, they were never apologetic.

With the return of democracy, we thought lessons would have been learnt and correction made to previous errors. Alas! They seemed to be in love with sour oranges and again consumed the uncooked chicken with gluttony. 12years later, the tummy pains remain excruciating.
Here in the University of Ibadan, they have told us never to look the elders in the eye even in the face of oppression. They have taught us to keep sealed lips though things are obviously falling apart but when we dare look them in the eye and refuse to be cowered, they graciously give us silencing letters like birthday gifts.
Our fathers, our fathers, thus far have you led us. You have led us in the path of oppression, suppression and subjugation. But now is the time to break away from the sins of our fathers; take the path of light and vehemently refuse to bear the consequences of their carelessness. Children of my fathers stand up and fight for the emancipation and unity of your dear motherland. However, don’t let history repeat itself by falling prey to the sins of our fathers. Don’t make the same mistake they made or the next generation will as well curse you.

Birthday wishes
I want to say happy birthday in arrears to Ikem Deborah Eva and Ajibola Yetunde Aisha. I also use this opportunity to say happy birthday in advance to two of my best friends: Faith Ukpai (23rd) and Ola Daniel Olawale (29th). I wish them a God-filled new year.